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A Guiding Hand
A Guiding Hand | Revelation, Real Estate, Personal Guidance

Throughout my whole life I've felt God's hand, guiding me. Even more so since becoming a parent. Over the last three years I've tried extra hard to listen to the promptings He has given me concerning me and my family. This last year and a half has been a whirlwind of change. We added another child to our family, moved away from our family's to a new city, and my husbands starting his third job. That third job and the inspiration leading up to it are something I want to record, so when it gets hard I can remember that God has a bigger plan for us.

Rewind to Christmas time. Matthew and I were driving home when he sparked a conversation about being impressed to look into being a real estate agent. We decided to follow through with the prompting and scheduled a time to meet with our realtor, who has been in the industry for 20+ years, to see if it was something we'd be interested in. 

The first week of January, we met with him in his wife in their home. We were expecting to be talked out of the whole idea, but instead left feeling even more convinced we should get into it. The next week we went to the temple to pray and ponder over this decision. We both received strong impressions that Matthew should pursue real estate. He had a distinct thought that it would be hard, but he would be successful. That night he signed up for an online course to get his license.

120 hours and 3 weeks later, he had finished the course. The next week he took the exam and passed! Basically a month and a half later after our first discussion, he was a licensed realtor. I started working on his website and setting up his social media platforms while he looked into brokerages to work under, hence the reason I've been so MIA on here and social media. 

It has been so exciting to be a part of Matthew's work. I've never had the opportunity to work with him like this before, and I love it so much. To support him with skills I've acquired from starting THIS BLOG is such an amazing feeling. His website is Utah Listing Pro if you want to check it out. ;) This is something that he's truly passionate about, and it's contagious! 

Anyway, Matthew shopped around for a brokerage he felt would train him to be as successful and we found that program at Mountain Land Realty. He met with the broker and wanted to start training there as soon as possible. That same week the FBI showed up at Alliance Health, his employer at the time. They were told to back away from their desks and head home because AH was under investigation. 

When he walked in the door on a Thursday morning at 10 AM, I was shocked. Then when he told me what happened I couldn't believe it. He couldn't go back to work until Monday so we decided now was as good of time as any to pray about going full time with real estate. We both felt good about that decision, so on Monday he walked into work and gave them his two weeks.

Fast forward to today, Matthew found out that Alliance let go one third of the company. That's 300 people! We feel so strongly that the Lord is aware of our circumstances, and we've felt him guiding us and our family. There were so many times we questioned why we should be impressed to do this or that, but it is so clear to us now that God has His guiding hand in our lives. 

He knows what is best for us and for that I'm grateful. I'm grateful to have someone to turn to when we don't know what our future holds. 

I am the Parent of a Biting Child

Here I am, feeling extra vulnerable and completely defeated. For the last month I've started going to the gym 2-3 times a week and leaving my kids in the childcare center my gym offers. This week Turner, now 3 years old and short for his age, was written up for biting another child. This is a problem we've had before, and I thought he was past it until this incident. I had a long talk with him about how it's not okay to bite others because it hurts them. I told him we need to use our words to express how we're feeling, and if a child isn't listening to you to talk to an adult. I asked him to promise me not to bite anymore and he agreed that he would not.

Well, today I took them to the gym again, and we had another biting incident that Turner was written up for. I left feeling humiliated and frustrated. As I was strapping him into his carseat, I told Turner that behavior was unacceptable and that we need to use our words to express how we're feeling. As I tried to get him to understand me, I started crying. I hugged him and pleaded desperately that he would not bite anymore. 

I was fuming the whole drive home with every range of emotion. Embarrassment, guilt, sadness, frustration, desperation, anger, defeat, confusion. I was completely at a loss of how to teach my son to express himself in a healthy way. I was thinking about how frustrated the other children, childcare employees and parents must be with my child and me. I've only ever seen him try to bite someone when they are taking something from him or making him feel threatened, but that doesn't make it okay. It's never okay. They told me that if it were to happen again, he would be suspended for several weeks. 

Working out at the gym has become so amazing for my mental and physical well being. So much so that being suspended would be absolutely devastating to me. Turner doesn't understand that. I've told him that going to the gym means a lot to me and that I would be sad if we couldn't go anymore, but that doesn't really matter. I just want him to understand that it's not okay to hurt others.

I've been googling, you-tubing and researching all the ways I can teach my child to stop biting. I did a few role playing exercises with him where I pretended I was a child trying to take his toy from him, then walked him through how he was feeling and how to express it properly. I'm doing everything I can to teach him that it's wrong, and I feel like I am failing. 

I messaged my husband to let him know it had happened again. He called me and we talked about our frustration and disappointment over the situation. We discussed different strategies like watching videos with him, reading books, and singing songs that teach him not to bite. He told me he knew we could work this out, and that we can get through anything together. <3 

I spent the next two hours playing with Turner as the baby napped, and he didn't show any type of aggression. He was communicating in a healthy way, compromising with me when there was something I didn't want to do and sharing with me really well. That's when I realized how self centric I had been throughout this whole situation. I didn't really think about how Turner was truly feeling, but about how his choices were effecting me and the people around him.

I knew he was reacting out of anger or frustration, but I didn't really think about how he may have been feeling going to childcare in general. Turner has only started playing in big groups since I joined the gym, and he is not used to that at all. We usually stay home during the week where he deals with his little brother, a 10 months old who is just learning to crawl around and play himself. He also attends a nursery during church once a week for a couple hours that has about 15 children, but it's usually less than that. Other than that he doesn't get a lot of exposure to groups of children.

The childcare center, however, can have up to 25 children and 5 infants at the same time (30 total), while there are usually only 5-6 employees. That's about 5 kids per adult. I only have 2 kids of my own, and that's a lot for me to handle. The employees can't watch every child at all times. It's not possible. They are doing the best that they can to ensure every child is taken care of.

Turner really thrives on adult-child play, which he's not getting. He also thrives on one-on-one and small group interaction and I'm sure he's getting overwhelmed with such a large amount of children in the same space. He is trying to deal with it the best he can. And unfortunately that's with his teeth. I wish the 10 million times I told him that biting isn't okay was enough. I wish I could be there with him every second to reinforce his good behavior and guide him through proper emotional expression. But if he's not emotionally ready to be with a big group of kids without my constant supervision for an hour, then he's not ready. AND THAT'S OKAY.

I'm going to continue doing everything in my power to teach him what behavior is okay and what's not. That's all I can do. So if your child is biting, know you are not alone and that the struggle is real. Keep loving them and teaching them the best way you know how. Talk to your spouse, family members, friends, your pediatrician, and anyone else you trust for other resources to help you. And if you're child is the victim of a biting incident, or a childcare employee, please try to have empathy for the biting child, and their parents too. No parent wants there child to be hurt or to be hurting someone else. Let's all show a lot more love and equally less judgement. We all have our struggles, and right now this is ours.

Friday Favorites!

This last month I started using some game changing products, and the list of favorites was getting so long I felt the need to share it with all of you! All of the product images below are linked to where you can purchase them. So let's jump right into it, shall we?

Mē Smooth Hair Reduction Device

I have wanted to get laser hair removal for a while now. Well, did you know you could do it yourself at home? Matthew got me this device for Christmas, you may have heard me talking about it on my Insta story, and I was SUPER skeptical that it could actually get the job done. I started on/am currently treating my underarms and bikini area. I'm over half way done with the treatments and I can totally notice a difference! Especially on my bikini area. TMI, but I have thick hair and I was getting so many painful ingrown hairs it was ridiculous. This is CHANGING MY LIFE. I can't wait to give a full review after I'm done with all of the treatments. If you want to laser the private parts of your body for a fraction of the cost. This is the way to do it. 

Dove Dry Spray Antiperspirant

I have good friends who recommend the best products and this one as well as the next one were recommended by my BFF, Kelsie. You guys, the ingrown/thick hair problem also applies to my underarms which I feel like makes them very easily irritated. Off and on since I can remember I've had reactions to deodorant. I never really switched brands because it only happened every once in a while. Well, after having rashes for a little over a month I stopped using my deodorant and switched to my husbands. That's when Kelsie recommend this dry spray deodorant. I've been using it for a couple weeks now and I'm OBSESSED. It feels like I'm spraying air on my pits because this stuff drys instantly. It smells great and lasts up to 48 hours! Go get some for yourself. Right now. 

Soap Brows

Kelsie also opened my eyes to the magic that is Soap Brows. I mean, just look at her brows first. Then, go watch this video to see it in action! Isn't that incredible??? I have sparseness just like her and it does wonders for me! I've been using a pink soap, and so I can only imagine what it's going to look like when I get some clear soap

Little Remedies Saline Drops

If you have been following my Instagram saga, then you already know we've been hit with a constant wave of illness in our home. Specifically sinuses and colds. These drops have done wonders for clearing out that stubborn mucus in  my little ones nostrils. They hate getting the drops, but it has made the biggest difference in getting them back to their healthy, happy selves! 

Lemi-Shine

Okay, so a couple months ago our dishes started looking a little foggy. I looked up a DIY rinse aid on Pinterest and thought I would give it a try. Well, something went horribly wrong and for a whole month we had this nasty white film on everything. Even the dishwasher. I felt awful and tried everything I could to flush the system. It was looking better but still had a foggy look to it. That's when I saw this product on my friend Kalie's favorites list on Instagram, and I HAD to give it a try. After the first wash, the dishwasher looked brand new!!! I couldn't believe it! Our dishes have never looked this clean. EVER. Matthew is obsessed with how clean our glassware is. SO worth the investment for us.

Moana Soundtrack

I know, totally cliche, but I don't even care. Turner and I are OBSESSED with this movie and all of it's music. The soundtrack has been on repeat every time we get in the car, or if there's a lull in our day. It's the perfect pick me up! You're welcome. ;)

That's it for today! If you try them out, let me know what you think! What products are your tried and true favorites right now? Leave a comment with them below! Thanks for reading, loves!

*This post contains affiliate links. All opinions are my own.*

Life Lately || September
Life Lately || September || ADOS || Style, wear, eat, watch, love, want

1. STYLE:

Loose curls on my growing locks. Follow me on Snapchat for hair snaps on the daily. Username: chereesalter3

2. WEAR:

New makeup and my velvet black choker. Shop the look below!

3. EAT:

Quiche. It's so good I can't even. Try my recipe and find out why it's my new obsession.

4. WATCH:

Person of Interest. It's so intense, and Jim Caviesel is hardcore.

5. LOVE:

FALL FOLIAGE. It was absolutely GORGEOUS in Park City while I was on my girl's trip last weekend. The beauty of this world has me constantly in awe. Especially Utah. #utahisrad

6. WANT:

To be uplifted and encouraged by the general authorities this weekend during General Conference. It's healing to my soul to hear from the inspired leaders of the LDS church. Tune in with me at LDS.org on Saturday and Sunday, 10 am - 12 pm & 2 pm - 4 pm!  

This image is a printable I made from a quote I heard during the General Women's Conference last Saturday. Watch that here and I'll be sharing this printable and more tomorrow! I hope you all had an amazing month of September! 

Found My Soul || Free Printable
Found My Soul || Monthly Free Printable || A Dash of Salter || Motherhood. In raising my children, I have lost my mind but found my soul. Lisa T. Shepherd. Print Freebie
"In raising my children, I have lost my mind but found my soul."

Matthew left for a business trip last Monday until Wednesday night. While he was gone, all I could think about was how hard it was to do this mom thing every day without his comfort and support. I was constantly focusing on how I was losing my mind, and forgetting that my children were helping me find my soul. It made me realize how much I depend on that connection. He can come home from work to do absolutely nothing, but I feel an instant sense of relief and security in knowing I'm not in this parenting journey alone. 

Two days later, I took off for a girls trip in Park City. I couldn't wait to spend some time in a beautiful place with beautiful people. As we talked all the live long day, we shared details of our relationships with our husbands and children. We left them to get a break, but it was the majority of our conversation. It's too hard not to talk about motherhood when it's what fills your whole life. We talked about struggles and adversity in our roles as mothers. And about the importance of having the support of community and sisterhood with other strong women. 

We should always be there for one another. We should reach out to one another when we feel like we're losing our minds. That relationship of empathy, love and compassion will help us continue doing that most important work. To raise our children to be the good in this world. Isn't that our greatest goal as mother's? To see our children succeed and change this world for the better? That is my goal. And I know that I am not alone in reaching it.

So many angels in the form of a person have lifted me up when I feel I'm failing in the role of motherhood. It's through those angels that I know my Heavenly Father and Savior, Jesus Christ, know me personally and love me unconditionally. God sent me these children because He trusted me to nurture, love and teach them. As I've prayed in moments of defeat and desperation, the spirit witnesses to me that He knows I am doing my best. That my best is enough.

And so is yours. 

I'm grateful for that knowledge, and for all of the angels around me that make this journey a little bit easier. I hope you enjoy this free printable and have a great day! 

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