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A Guiding Hand
A Guiding Hand | Revelation, Real Estate, Personal Guidance

Throughout my whole life I've felt God's hand, guiding me. Even more so since becoming a parent. Over the last three years I've tried extra hard to listen to the promptings He has given me concerning me and my family. This last year and a half has been a whirlwind of change. We added another child to our family, moved away from our family's to a new city, and my husbands starting his third job. That third job and the inspiration leading up to it are something I want to record, so when it gets hard I can remember that God has a bigger plan for us.

Rewind to Christmas time. Matthew and I were driving home when he sparked a conversation about being impressed to look into being a real estate agent. We decided to follow through with the prompting and scheduled a time to meet with our realtor, who has been in the industry for 20+ years, to see if it was something we'd be interested in. 

The first week of January, we met with him in his wife in their home. We were expecting to be talked out of the whole idea, but instead left feeling even more convinced we should get into it. The next week we went to the temple to pray and ponder over this decision. We both received strong impressions that Matthew should pursue real estate. He had a distinct thought that it would be hard, but he would be successful. That night he signed up for an online course to get his license.

120 hours and 3 weeks later, he had finished the course. The next week he took the exam and passed! Basically a month and a half later after our first discussion, he was a licensed realtor. I started working on his website and setting up his social media platforms while he looked into brokerages to work under, hence the reason I've been so MIA on here and social media. 

It has been so exciting to be a part of Matthew's work. I've never had the opportunity to work with him like this before, and I love it so much. To support him with skills I've acquired from starting THIS BLOG is such an amazing feeling. His website is Utah Listing Pro if you want to check it out. ;) This is something that he's truly passionate about, and it's contagious! 

Anyway, Matthew shopped around for a brokerage he felt would train him to be as successful and we found that program at Mountain Land Realty. He met with the broker and wanted to start training there as soon as possible. That same week the FBI showed up at Alliance Health, his employer at the time. They were told to back away from their desks and head home because AH was under investigation. 

When he walked in the door on a Thursday morning at 10 AM, I was shocked. Then when he told me what happened I couldn't believe it. He couldn't go back to work until Monday so we decided now was as good of time as any to pray about going full time with real estate. We both felt good about that decision, so on Monday he walked into work and gave them his two weeks.

Fast forward to today, Matthew found out that Alliance let go one third of the company. That's 300 people! We feel so strongly that the Lord is aware of our circumstances, and we've felt him guiding us and our family. There were so many times we questioned why we should be impressed to do this or that, but it is so clear to us now that God has His guiding hand in our lives. 

He knows what is best for us and for that I'm grateful. I'm grateful to have someone to turn to when we don't know what our future holds. 

Things to Remember the Next Time You Have Mom Guilt
3 Things to Remember the Next Time You Have Mom Guilt

This weekend I had somewhat of a revelation, a realization really, and it all has to do with mom guilt.  If you're anything like me, you feel it all the time. 

I feel it every time my child gets sick. When my child misbehaves or hurts someone. If my house is filthy and I binge watch Netflix instead of cleaning it. When I lose my patience and react out of anger. Anytime I make a choice that isn't the best choice, in comes mom guilt. Sometimes the guilt and weight of parental responsibility becomes so overwhelming I completely breakdown. Sobbing ensues and there is little that can be done to stop it. On Saturday I laid in bed, and did just that.

Earlier that day I felt my son Grey's forehead to find he was running a fever, again. Our boys have gone from one illness to another this winter and I was beginning to believe that they'll never have noses that aren't running and throats that aren't sore from coughing.  My patience was thin and my energy low. Matthew was trying to talk to me about planning a vacation, which distracted me for a while. Until I heard Grey coughing downstairs. 

That's when all the guilt flooded in. Why can't I keep my children from getting sick? What am I doing wrong? Which lead to more and more thoughts of guilt, unrelated to illness. Why am I not motivated to do the laundry? There are so many things I can do better. I don't play with Turner enough. We don't leave the house enough. We watch too much television. I look at my phone too much. All followed by the thought that I am a terrible mother. 

My sweet husband could instantly tell something was weighing down my heart and asked me to talk to him. In a flood of tears, I told him what I was feeling. The weight of being a parent and raising competent, respectful human beings is too much to handle at times.  I felt that weight lifting slightly as he comforted me and said just the things I needed to hear.

As I continued to reflect on our conversation in the days following, my perspective became more profound and clear. These are some of the things I've come to understand and hope to remember the next time I feel mom guilt, or guilt of any kind.

  • Guilt comes with caring. The fact that you feel guilt about something is because you care about how it effects those around you. The next time you feel guilty, remind yourself that you truly care and let it motivate you to keep improving yourself. If your children are fed, safe, and loved, you're doing great! 
  • You can always be better. No matter how perfect we try to be, or how much we do, we will always have room for improvement. That's just how life is. You won't get anywhere for beating yourself up about the mistakes and the what if's. Forgive yourself, and just keep giving your best. 
  • Your best is enough. Stop comparing yourself to everyone else's seemingly put together and perfect life. I promise, it's not. Mine DEFINITELY is not. Do your mama thing the best way you know how, and then try to do a little better each day. That is more than enough. 

I love my children, I can improve, and my efforts are enough. That's a phrase I need to tell myself more often.

These things may not be a revelation to all, but it definitely came at a time that I needed it most. I'm so grateful for a wise, loving husband who holds me and reassures me while I let ALL the emotion out. If you've ever felt this way before, please know you're not alone. And if you ever need someone to talk to about it, I'm here for you. ;) I hope you all have a great week!


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New Year's "Revelations"
New Year's Revelations || A Dash of Salter || change is good, ocean, peace, inspiration

I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted on the good old blog. Between the holidays and planning for Turner’s birthday party I’ve been swamped! In that time I also did a lot of contemplating about my goals for this year. I want to share with you some of my New Year’s “revelations.”

I’ve always struggled with doubts in my abilities to succeed. A lot of my life has been spent avoiding risk so I could avoid what I believed to be inevitable failure.  I’m grateful for the loved ones in my life who push me to take risks because without them I would have a very unaccomplished life.

Even now, my husband is constantly trying to persuade me of my talents and abilities. Until these last couple of weeks, I would say his attempts have been in vain. I’m starting to feel a change within myself. I’m starting to recognize my strengths and accept them. I’m starting to realize I’ll never succeed unless I believe in my own talents and abilities. Very soon I’m going to be taking a few risks and opening myself up to vulnerability.  For the first time I’m excited about what that will help me become.

I also fasted and prayed about some personal questions and received inspiration to study my scriptures on a daily basis. I have been reading the Book of Mormon every day this week and writing my thoughts in a journal. I cannot believe the amount of inspiration and insight I’ve already received. I know as I continue this habit throughout the year, it will be such a blessing in my life.

I still have a lot to improve on, but I’m excited about the few changes I’ve felt impressed to make in my daily life. I decided instead of calling them resolutions, to call them revelations. That’s exactly what they are. Change can be negative to some and exciting to others. And I’m happy to say I’m excited about the changes being made in me.

What are some goals you’ve been inspired to set this year?

p.s. I gave the blog a makeover. Did you notice? ;) I wanted to give it a little modern touch. What do you think?

xo

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