Surprisingly, I’ve NEVER done a makeup favorites roundup! I’ve had quite a few of you asking for all my go to makeup products, and here it is! For me makeup needs to be effortless and look likewise. Over the past year I’ve been REALLY HAPPY with my makeup routine! It’s simple, convenient, and makes me feel like my best self! Here are the top 10 products I now can’t live without!
I’ve been using this makeup for 3 years now, and I’m more obsessed with it than ever! It’s one of the reasons I signed up to be an artist, but let me tell you WHY I love it so much. From the first time I saw Cara, the creator, doing before and afters of this product I knew it was something I had to try. It just brought out this natural beauty and light in everyone she put it on!!
I convinced my husband to buy it for me the Christmas of 2015. I had been sick for months with the pregnancy of our second son to the point where I had lost myself. To finally feel okay enough to put makeup on and take that time for myself sparked a renewed sense of energy and confidence in me. It was exactly what I needed! To feel beautiful in my own skin. It actually inspired me to start blogging again, and I did this review on her product. The product and my skills have come a LONG way since then, but you can still see the confidence it gave me!!!
Now I get to share that same feeling with other women. I get to watch them light up as they see themselves shining through in that after photo. They realize their own beauty! Because it just enhances your natural features, it’s like you know you’re even more beautiful when you take it off. It’s fast, easy and convenient for everyday use - for a stay at home mom like me and so many other women who live full and bold lives! I’ve never loved my makeup routine more than I do right now!! (View my old routine vs new routine here) If you’re looking to change your foundation, you can learn your color match here and get your own customized palette!
This pencil is the perfect color (Neutral Brown) and makes brows a cinch! I don’t have to dip into a product over and over again, I just twist up and flick on those brows until I’ve achieved the look I want! For $2 per pencil, it really can’t be beat. I am in the market for a brow pen, but I’ve yet to find one that doesn’t dry out quickly.
This is the ONLY mascara that has kept my lashes curled all day! It doesn’t smudge onto my cream makeup and I don’t get crumbled maskcara all over my face throughout the day. I’m obsessed with the volume and length they gave without looking to chunky or unnatural. I don’t know if I’ll ever use another mascara again.
This is the CC Cream I used before I started using mascara and while the tones don’t always match the current color of my skin, I still love it for a minimal makeup day! It has 30 SPF so I can just apply to my face, add a pop of blush and mascara and I’m good to go! I use it mostly for days I’ll be swimming or out in the sun for a long period of time. On a day to day basis I still use my IIID Foundation, but this is something I truly love having in my arsenal.
I was SO skeptical of setting sprays before I tried the Stay Spray by Maskcara Beauty. It’s so refreshing and smells like coconuts, but most importantly it really does help my makeup last all day long! I love the way it helps the makeup set into my skin and keeps that dewy glow that I live for! Definitely can’t live without it now.
Okay, this isn’t necessarily makeup but it’s been the BIGGEST game changer for my lips! I used to hate wearing lip color because everything would crack and collect on my chronically dry lips. Thanks to this beautiful product, my lips have never been more soft, smooth and lucious! I am OBSESSED.
I was not a fan when I bought my first color, but after trying several others it really is the best longwear matte lipstick you can get for the price! It really does wear all day! It doesn’t burn or tingle and glides on really smooth. I think the deeper colors are my favorite so far.
Once again, I’d never really used high quality makeup brushes to apply my makeup until I started using Maskcara and ever since then I’ve been hooked. They are the highest quality, softest, most beautiful brushes I’ve ever used. It makes me cringe a little that I used to use my hands and those cheap tiny brushes that come with your drugstore makeup. No wonder I was never happy about my makeup routine! Quality really does make a difference, and these brushes are going to last me a lifetime!
This is a fairly new adventure, but I finally did some research on how to make my eyeshadow stay on all day and I found raving reviews on this one by wet n wild. It’s only $5 and so I had to give it a try. It’s been amazing! I can’t believe how big of a difference it really makes to have an eyeshadow primer!! If you’re looking for one, definitely give this one a try.
Of course I had to couple the primer with the Maskcara eyeshadows. Can you tell I’m a totally Maskcara brand junkie? Hahaha! These eyeshadows are so creamy, buildable, and each tin has SO MUCH PRODUCT! I love mixing and matching all of the colors we have available, and the great news is we’re getting a LOT of new ones super soon! Quality eyeshadows can really take a makeup look to the next level and I’m so excited to get my hands on all the new ones!
That’s a wrap, folks!! What are your tried and true makeup faves? Leave them in the comments and I’d love to try them! I hope you have an amazing weekend!
A week ago I asked all of you on instagram what things you struggle with most in your marriage/relationships. I had such great feedback from all of you and I started to notice a common theme. You all wanted to know how to overcome certain issues and become more intimate. OBVI. Now, I’m not a marriage counselor or an expert by any means. However, I did study family and relationships in college, and after 7 years of marriage, my husband and I have learned a lot about making our relationship stronger over time. These are principles that have helped us, and I want to help you improve your relationships, too! Let’s get to it!!! Here are some examples of the questions that were sent to me:
How can I let go of the everyday annoyances and quirks?
How do I stay content when there are disappointments?
How do I handle addictions, such as pornography?
How to decide how we discipline children?
How do we make time for date nights and sexual intimacy?
How do we overcome disagreements?
How do we decide when to start or stop having children?
And so on…
Now, I want to validate you and let you know that we have asked ourselves questions just like these! Anyone in a relationship has had to overcome annoyances, disagreements, and interferences! No matter how perfect a relationship may seem, we all have bad days. We lose our temper at times, we say things we don’t mean, and we forget to make our relationship a priority. It happens!! You can overcome it and strengthen your relationship by learning a few important skills.
QUICK REMINDER: Abuse of any kind is not okay. Physical, verbal, or sexual. A lot can be overcome, but when it involves your safety and/or the safety of your children, you need to get out.
Okay. Are you ready for the one thing that can help solve all of these issues? I don’t know if you’re ready. Alright, here it is.
- POSITIVE COMMUNICATION -
You probably feel like you’ve been duped, but wait! Let me teach you HOW to have positive communication in your relationships to overcome these issues. As a preface, when Matthew and I were dating we started off on a base of honesty. We both knew a lot about the personal struggles and past of the other person. Those were openly communicated and talked about before we made the commitment to spend our lives, and eternity, together. We knew it would take time, work, and healing to overcome them, and we were ready to take them on together. The continuation of that honesty has played a huge role in our success as a couple. Here are some key skills we’ve acquired that have allowed us to continue to fortify our relationship.
Having a steady state of vulnerability can be the hardest part of any relationship, but if you want to have trust in your relationship it’s something you both need to give. It takes a lot of courage at times, I know. Still, it’s an essential part of positive communication! Open up and be honest with each other! Being vulnerable about your feelings and struggles will allow the other person to feel validated and more safe to share themselves. Plus, this will give you both an opportunity to serve and help one another.
USE “I” STATEMENTS
This is one that we still need to work at, but it’s so important when addressing annoyances, disagreements, and hurt feelings. If you use you statements when working through issues, it sounds like blame and initiates defensiveness in the other person. When you use I statements it allows the other person to understand how their actions made you feel and how they can try to improve. Here’s an example using both statements concerning a small issue. For these examples we’ll say that someone agreed to clean up a certain area of the house, and they didn’t.
You Statement: “Seriously? You didn’t clean up that area like I asked! You never follow through with your promises. I have to do everything around here!.” (dramatic I know, but all too familiar.)
I Statement: “I feel upset when I come home and see that area is messy because it seems like my ask for help was not a priority to you. I would like it if you could make it a priority to help me when asked in the future.” (feel the difference?)
It may seem like a no brainer, right?
Even starting with an “I feel” can turn into a “you keep forgetting to do the dishes” Or something different altogether, like my personal signature, “Someone hasn’t been doing _______ like they said they would.”
I am the queen of guilt trips and saying things are okay when I really feel otherwise. I’m also really skilled at the silent treatment. Not knowing how to properly structure my feelings to express them is what usually stops me from doing just that. Looking up the I Statement format always helps me remember how to say what I really feel and tell my husband what I’d like him to do. Instead of just getting upset, not telling him what’s wrong, and expecting him to understand why/how to fix it. That’s why I created this “I” statement worksheet for you guys! Print it out, or print 4, and write out something you’d like to communicate positively! It can be used in all relationships, (at work, at school, with your kids, extended family members, etc;) not just the super intimate ones!
TALK TALK TALK
When in doubt, talk it out. Now that we know how to properly express our feelings, it’s time to practice it! If you have something bugging you or a concern on your mind, tell them you need time to talk to them about it. We often say things like, “Remind me to tell you something that’s been on my mind when I get home” or “Can I tell you something personal once the kids go to bed?” Make your time to talk a priority. Both participants need to be willing to make communicating positively a consistent effort. If this is a struggle for you, you may need to actually schedule it into your day. Turn off the TV, put your phones in a box, go to a place where there’s less distractions and talk for at least 15-30 minutes every single day. The more you talk the easier it is to be vulnerable and communicate your feelings in a positive way.
Okay, now let’s give more DIRECT answers to your questions:
Q: How can I let go of the everyday annoyances and quirks?
A: Tell them in a positive way how those things make you feel.
Example: I feel annoyed when you leave your clothes laying on the floor because it makes it hard for me to focus when the room is a mess in the morning. I would appreciate it if you could put them away in the hamper or closet instead.
Q: How do I stay content when there are disappointments?
A: Make sure to voice your disappointments to your significant other so they know how you feel and can try to improve.
Example: I feel disappointed when you break your promises to me because it seems like I’m not very important to you. I would like it if you would keep your promises from now on. (broad example, but hopefully you get the idea!)
Q: How do I handle addictions, such as pornography?
A: This one is so hard because it’s the addiction that causes all of the issues. Talking about the addiction openly and working through it is the only way to overcome it! There are addiction recovery programs and support groups that are great for both partners to attend! Counseling and therapy are also a great way to talk about these issues and get additional help. Pornography specifically is scientifically proven to have damaging effects on intimacy because of the chemical disconnect it causes in the brain. Again, this is a deeper issue that can’t necessarily be solved by communication only. There are feelings of betrayal and broken trust. If not approached in a positive way it can make things worse. Here are a few examples to help move things towards a positive direction.
Example as addict: (after opening up about addiction) I feel frustrated when I give in to my addiction because I know it’s wrong and I forget how it might affect those around me. I would hope you can come to forgive me and be patient with me as we start learning how to help me overcome it.
Example as partner of addict: I feel deeply hurt when your addiction grabs a hold of you because it makes me feel like I’m not good enough and you’re not happy with our life together. I would like it if the next time you feel the need to turn to your addiction, you’ll come talk to me instead.
Q: How to decide how we discipline children?
A: This is such a personal thing. I feel like most problems occur when disciplinary styles don’t match up. Read more about parenting styles here. What matters most when it comes to discipline is that both parents are on the same page. Talk about your children’s needs and how you want to discipline that when situations arise. This will allow you to handle it as a united front, and that consistency will help them learn to improve their choices and behaviors. “I” statements are a great way to communicate with your kids when disciplining.
Example: I feel upset when you use that language while talking to me because it seems like you don’t respect and love me. I would like it if you could think about how it would feel to have someone talk to you that way.
Q; How do we make time for date nights and sexual intimacy?
A: Date Nights: Since taking my marriage class in college, I have learned that continuing to date and get to know each other as you age together is key. We change as we grow into adulthood, once we have kids, we change jobs, move to a new city, or gain new friends. The best way to get to know the person your partner is becoming is to date them! You guessed it, have a conversation!!! Learn about the things they’re interested in, what new things they want to try, what happens in their daily life, etc; Show up for them in their lives and be a part of the process! Find things to enjoy together that will keep you grounded and connected as a couple.
Sexual Intimacy: Same thing as dating. Make it a priority! Try new things together. Experiment together. Tell your partner when your in the mood! If the mood is the problem you may need to have a Sexy Month. If you’ve read, Girl, Wash Your Face then you know what I’m talking about. Rachel Hollis talks about doing a Sexy September (or whatever month you want) and scheduling to have sexy time every day of the month. It seems like a lot, I know. But surprisingly, having lots of sex makes you want it more. Plus, the skills of both parties improve. Practice makes perfect! You just have to make the time for it!
Q: How do we overcome disagreements?
A: TALK ABOUT IT. Say how you feel in a positive way. Beating a dead horse now, I know. Haha!
Here’s an example: I feel sad when we disagree over ______ because it’s important to me that we are on the same page. I would like it if we could brainstorm how to overcome this disagreement or come to a compromise.
Q: How do we decide when to start or stop having children?
A: Again this is such a personal decision between you and your spouse/SO. Make sure you voice your feelings using an I statement. If your partner isn’t ready, then it’s out of your control! The more you talk about it in a positive way without blame, the more likely they are to open up and come around to the idea. A lot of deeper fears are involved when it comes to the decision of how many children you want to bring into the world. Be patient with them, and keep the conversation open so they can come to you when they’re ready!
Example: I feel frustrated when you tell me you’re not ready to have kids because I want nothing more than to start a family with you. I would like it if you could think about it, let me know any concerns you may have and tell me when you’re ready.
That’s a wrap my friends! I hope you found this helpful and gained some insight as to how to handle the inevitable bumps on the road of your relationships. If you have any other questions you’d like answered, leave them in the comments and my husband and I will do our best to address them! Lots of love from us to all of you!
The weather is slowly transitioning to fall and it's my favorite time of the year for fashion! Transitioning your summer wardrobe into fall fabulous is easy with just a few key pieces! I've got the deets on how to make what's in your closet work for you, so keep reading! For reference I'll be listing an outline of my capsule wardrobe to help you get an idea of how to create your own! Most of the items I have, but some are similar items because what I purchased two seasons ago is no longer available but still going strong!! *hands to face, shocked white eyes emoji* That's just the beauty of simplifying your wardrobe, ladies. And it doesn't have to cost a fortune either! All images will be linked so you know where to find each item! All items are under $50! Ready??? Let's start with covering your butt. ;)
First, you'll want to hang onto your favorite denim shorts and ankle cropped jeans. Seriously!!! They are the perfect bottoms for fall! You can pair shorts with a tee and long cardigan/kimono, or put a sweater on top to balance it out! The key is to get creative with how you layer your tops with your bottoms. Keep scrolling to see what I mean!
2 pairs of bermuda shorts
2 pairs of denim crops
1 pair of distressed black skinny jeans
Below are some examples of tops to keep in your fall capsule wardrobe. Take notice, they are ALL short sleeve. This will make it so you don't get too hot during the day, but you can use your layering piece of choice to help warm you/change things up when things cool down a little. Pick some tops that are more lightweight and basic, and some that are a little more warm and patterned. Find fall colored stripes or a classic plaid top to give all those fall vibes!
1 graphic tee
1 button up blouse
2 basic tees in neutral colors (I count the black/white mock neck top as a basic neutral)
2 fall toned/patterned tops
These are the layering pieces I was referring to earlier. Using these will add interest and warmth to your basics! Add this kimono over a pair of shorts, graphic tee and booties for a boho vibe. Throw the midi cardigan over a mock neck top and high waisted distressed jean with a pair of mules for a modern edgy look. You can layer a neutral sweater over a collared button up with some cropped cuffed jeans and white tennis shoes for a preppy look! I'm telling you, the possibilities are endless for mixing and matching with these simple layering pieces!
1 crochet/lace kimono
1 neutral crew sweater
1 long sweater cardigan
DRESSES + JUMPSUITS
These pieces are so much fun to dress up or down. That's something that's so great about having simple base pieces. You can always layer them and style them in so many different ways! Pair the jumpsuit with a graphic tee and some tennis shoes or put it with a collared top, statement earrings and some mules for a more dressy look. Go sporty with your dresses by pairing them with a sweater and tennis shoes or throw on your kimono and booties. You can't go wrong, I'm telling you.
2 simple dresses
SHOES + ACCESSORIES
I mean, did I say enough about mixing and matching basics yet? Haha these are definitely my most worn shoes styles in my closet right now. Although, I have faux leather strap slides that I've been wearing, not mules. Mules are definitely on my list to purchase for fall and these ones are so cute/affordable! Grab a few trendy accessories like these bandana scarfs and some tassel earrings to take any look to the next level! I also have a couple baseball caps and chokers that I like to switch it up with as well. Accessories and layers are where all the fun is for fall!
1 pair black booties
1 pair faux leather mules/slides
1 pair white tennis shoes
2 bandanas for around neck/hair
1+ pairs of fun fall toned earrings
2 baseball caps
1 choker necklace
There you go! 25 pieces total and I'm ready for fall!! Once you have the basic essential pieces for your style, you'll find yourself being more satisfied with your closet from season to season. Then all you need to add are a few layering or accessory pieces to freshen up your look! Which is overall way cheaper in the long run! Do you think you could survive the season with only 25 pieces?
Simplifying my wardrobe is one of the best things I've ever done for myself! I feel like I have way more pieces I LOVE and less pieces that I just bought because they were on sale and wanted more clothes but never wear because they don't go with anything. Ha! I have become so much more intentional about each piece and only buy something if I love it, feel comfortable in it and know I'll wear it multiple times. It's been so good for my confidence and my budget!
If you have any questions about creating your own capsule wardrobe, I'm happy to answer them! Just leave them in the comments below or send me a DM on instagram @adashofsalter!
*This post contains affiliate links, but all are items exactly/similar to ones I have already purchased and all opinions are my own!*
How long the bleeding can last
I miscarried Mother's day weekend and the bleeding continued for six and a half more weeks. According to my multiple google searches, 2 weeks is "normal" but it may last longer than that. For me it did, and I didn't know if it was ever going to stop. After a month I stopped going into the doctor's office (more on that below), but I felt like my body was healing in it's own time. If I had been cramping or in any pain I definitely would have talked to a healthcare professional. Luckily, the bleeding stopped and I was finally able to not be constantly reminded of what I had lost.
- What it feels like to get weekly blood tests
This is the reason I stopped seeing my doctor. I had my blood drawn at my first appointment where my doctor told me while looking at my ultrasound, "I don't see anything in there." I had it drawn again a couple days later and my hCG levels weren't dropping very quickly. So my doctor asked that I come in again the next week for a shot to resolve any possible ectopic pregnancy and allow them to take another blood draw. This continued for three weeks. With massive bruises on each arm and anxiety over going in again, I made the best decision for my mental and emotional health to stop getting my blood drawn. So glad I made that decision. Again, if I had been in pain at all I would have continued to seek professional help. It should also be noted that I just stopped receiving all the lab bills for those blood draws.
- My grief doesn't look like someone else's, and that's okay
I consider myself a pretty optimistic person, and so my brain often doesn't want to open up about hurt, pain, sorrow, loss. I never want to bum people out. But it doesn't mean I don't feel all of those things. Sharing a little bit about how I've felt and what I've learned from my experience is how I'm able to move forward in a positive way. Sometimes I feel like that might make me seem fake or less authentic, but everyone grieves differently. Having an optimistic perspective that my experience can help someone else is how I'm coping with my loss, and that's true to who I am right now. And however you grieve, that's okay too!!
- Talking about it brings out emotions and allows you to stay on top of them
I felt burdened by what I was going through and opening up to my mom and sisters almost a month later was so healing for me. Sharing my experience here on the blog was hard for me, but also allowed me to understand just how many women go through something like what I experienced. It's given me so much understanding of how important it is to not judge others. You never know what they may be going through or what struggles they've faced in the past. I almost didn't share anything at all because I didn't want people to feel like they had to cheer me up or that I was seeking attention from my situation. But I'm glad I followed my heart felt feelings to post anyway because it's brought me closer to my family, friends, and complete strangers. It's also brought me closer to my Savior, Jesus Christ, and I'm so grateful for that.
- The grief and worry don't stop after the bleeding does
Luckily my reproductive cycle seems to be normalizing itself four months later, but the grief and worry still occur from time to time. When I see pregnant bellies, pregnancy announcements that have the same due date month our baby would have, gender reveals, regretting flying to California while pregnant, imagining what I'd look like right now if I hadn't miscarried, anytime I think I might be pregnant again but the test is negative, not working out as hard because I think I might be pregnant, wondering what's wrong with my body, etc; You get the idea. I still think about it all the time. I don't know if I'll ever forget about it, because it's the first time I've ever had a personal experience shake me so hard.
I am not alone
I was OVERWHELMED TO TEARS because of all of the women who had experienced something similar and reached out to me with love and understanding. It somehow broke my heart and mended it simultaneously to know so many had been where I was. Not to mention the countless empathetic, loving messages from friends, family, and strangers who were grieving with me even though they didn't know what I was feeling. THANK YOU. Every comment, thought and prayer meant so much to me and I felt so loved by all of you. I also know that my loving Heavenly Father and Savior, Jesus Christ, had their arms wrapped around me through this trial. The spirit has comforted me and reaffirmed to me that I will have the opportunity to see my angel baby again someday.
An increased love and compassion for others
I think that sometimes heartbreak happens so more love can fit inside it before it's patched back up again. My heart has been opened and my mind is more aware of everyone who might be secretly suffering. If you're going through a miscarriage right now, I'm so sorry. No matter how common it is or how far along you were, the loss is still a loss. The pain is both physical, and emotional. The hormone levels dropping inside you still affect your mental health. See a health professional, and also listen to what you think your body needs to recover. Nothing you did caused this to happen, but from what I've experienced that doesn't stop the regret or paranoia. So just give yourself grace and time. Allow yourself to feel sad, mad, worried or guilty. Reach out to others often, when you feel like you need support. You will be surprised how many others have been through a similar struggle in silence. Please realize that you are not broken. You are strong. You are perfectly you. And you are loved.