The Key to Solving Most Relationship Issues

A week ago I asked all of you on instagram what things you struggle with most in your marriage/relationships. I had such great feedback from all of you and I started to notice a common theme. You all wanted to know how to overcome certain issues and become more intimate. OBVI. Now, I’m not a marriage counselor or an expert by any means. However, I did study family and relationships in college, and after 7 years of marriage, my husband and I have learned a lot about making our relationship stronger over time. These are principles that have helped us, and I want to help you improve your relationships, too! Let’s get to it!!! Here are some examples of the questions that were sent to me:

  • How can I let go of the everyday annoyances and quirks?

  • How do I stay content when there are disappointments?

  • How do I handle addictions, such as pornography?

  • How to decide how we discipline children?

  • How do we make time for date nights and sexual intimacy?

  • How do we overcome disagreements?

  • How do we decide when to start or stop having children?

And so on…

Now, I want to validate you and let you know that we have asked ourselves questions just like these! Anyone in a relationship has had to overcome annoyances, disagreements, and interferences! No matter how perfect a relationship may seem, we all have bad days. We lose our temper at times, we say things we don’t mean, and we forget to make our relationship a priority. It happens!! You can overcome it and strengthen your relationship by learning a few important skills.

QUICK REMINDER: Abuse of any kind is not okay. Physical, verbal, or sexual. A lot can be overcome, but when it involves your safety and/or the safety of your children, you need to get out.

Okay. Are you ready for the one thing that can help solve all of these issues? I don’t know if you’re ready. Alright, here it is.

- POSITIVE COMMUNICATION -

You probably feel like you’ve been duped, but wait! Let me teach you HOW to have positive communication in your relationships to overcome these issues. As a preface, when Matthew and I were dating we started off on a base of honesty. We both knew a lot about the personal struggles and past of the other person. Those were openly communicated and talked about before we made the commitment to spend our lives, and eternity, together. We knew it would take time, work, and healing to overcome them, and we were ready to take them on together. The continuation of that honesty has played a huge role in our success as a couple. Here are some key skills we’ve acquired that have allowed us to continue to fortify our relationship.

VULNERABILITY

Having a steady state of vulnerability can be the hardest part of any relationship, but if you want to have trust in your relationship it’s something you both need to give. It takes a lot of courage at times, I know. Still, it’s an essential part of positive communication! Open up and be honest with each other! Being vulnerable about your feelings and struggles will allow the other person to feel validated and more safe to share themselves. Plus, this will give you both an opportunity to serve and help one another.

USE “I” STATEMENTS

This is one that we still need to work at, but it’s so important when addressing annoyances, disagreements, and hurt feelings. If you use you statements when working through issues, it sounds like blame and initiates defensiveness in the other person. When you use I statements it allows the other person to understand how their actions made you feel and how they can try to improve. Here’s an example using both statements concerning a small issue. For these examples we’ll say that someone agreed to clean up a certain area of the house, and they didn’t.

  • You Statement: “Seriously? You didn’t clean up that area like I asked! You never follow through with your promises. I have to do everything around here!.” (dramatic I know, but all too familiar.)

  • I Statement: “I feel upset when I come home and see that area is messy because it seems like my ask for help was not a priority to you. I would like it if you could make it a priority to help me when asked in the future.” (feel the difference?)

It may seem like a no brainer, right?

WRONG.

Even starting with an “I feel” can turn into a “you keep forgetting to do the dishes” Or something different altogether, like my personal signature, “Someone hasn’t been doing _______ like they said they would.”

I am the queen of guilt trips and saying things are okay when I really feel otherwise. I’m also really skilled at the silent treatment. Not knowing how to properly structure my feelings to express them is what usually stops me from doing just that. Looking up the I Statement format always helps me remember how to say what I really feel and tell my husband what I’d like him to do. Instead of just getting upset, not telling him what’s wrong, and expecting him to understand why/how to fix it. That’s why I created this “I” statement worksheet for you guys! Print it out, or print 4, and write out something you’d like to communicate positively! It can be used in all relationships, (at work, at school, with your kids, extended family members, etc;) not just the super intimate ones!

TALK TALK TALK

When in doubt, talk it out. Now that we know how to properly express our feelings, it’s time to practice it! If you have something bugging you or a concern on your mind, tell them you need time to talk to them about it. We often say things like, “Remind me to tell you something that’s been on my mind when I get home” or “Can I tell you something personal once the kids go to bed?” Make your time to talk a priority. Both participants need to be willing to make communicating positively a consistent effort. If this is a struggle for you, you may need to actually schedule it into your day. Turn off the TV, put your phones in a box, go to a place where there’s less distractions and talk for at least 15-30 minutes every single day. The more you talk the easier it is to be vulnerable and communicate your feelings in a positive way.

Okay, now let’s give more DIRECT answers to your questions:

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Q: How can I let go of the everyday annoyances and quirks?

A: Tell them in a positive way how those things make you feel.

  • Example: I feel annoyed when you leave your clothes laying on the floor because it makes it hard for me to focus when the room is a mess in the morning. I would appreciate it if you could put them away in the hamper or closet instead.

Q: How do I stay content when there are disappointments?

A: Make sure to voice your disappointments to your significant other so they know how you feel and can try to improve.

  • Example: I feel disappointed when you break your promises to me because it seems like I’m not very important to you. I would like it if you would keep your promises from now on. (broad example, but hopefully you get the idea!)

Q: How do I handle addictions, such as pornography?

A: This one is so hard because it’s the addiction that causes all of the issues. Talking about the addiction openly and working through it is the only way to overcome it! There are addiction recovery programs and support groups that are great for both partners to attend! Counseling and therapy are also a great way to talk about these issues and get additional help. Pornography specifically is scientifically proven to have damaging effects on intimacy because of the chemical disconnect it causes in the brain. Again, this is a deeper issue that can’t necessarily be solved by communication only. There are feelings of betrayal and broken trust. If not approached in a positive way it can make things worse. Here are a few examples to help move things towards a positive direction.

  • Example as addict: (after opening up about addiction) I feel frustrated when I give in to my addiction because I know it’s wrong and I forget how it might affect those around me. I would hope you can come to forgive me and be patient with me as we start learning how to help me overcome it.

  • Example as partner of addict: I feel deeply hurt when your addiction grabs a hold of you because it makes me feel like I’m not good enough and you’re not happy with our life together. I would like it if the next time you feel the need to turn to your addiction, you’ll come talk to me instead.

Q: How to decide how we discipline children?

A: This is such a personal thing. I feel like most problems occur when disciplinary styles don’t match up. Read more about parenting styles here. What matters most when it comes to discipline is that both parents are on the same page. Talk about your children’s needs and how you want to discipline that when situations arise. This will allow you to handle it as a united front, and that consistency will help them learn to improve their choices and behaviors. “I” statements are a great way to communicate with your kids when disciplining.

  • Example: I feel upset when you use that language while talking to me because it seems like you don’t respect and love me. I would like it if you could think about how it would feel to have someone talk to you that way.

Q; How do we make time for date nights and sexual intimacy?

A: Date Nights: Since taking my marriage class in college, I have learned that continuing to date and get to know each other as you age together is key. We change as we grow into adulthood, once we have kids, we change jobs, move to a new city, or gain new friends. The best way to get to know the person your partner is becoming is to date them! You guessed it, have a conversation!!! Learn about the things they’re interested in, what new things they want to try, what happens in their daily life, etc; Show up for them in their lives and be a part of the process! Find things to enjoy together that will keep you grounded and connected as a couple.

Sexual Intimacy: Same thing as dating. Make it a priority! Try new things together. Experiment together. Tell your partner when your in the mood! If the mood is the problem you may need to have a Sexy Month. If you’ve read, Girl, Wash Your Face then you know what I’m talking about. Rachel Hollis talks about doing a Sexy September (or whatever month you want) and scheduling to have sexy time every day of the month. It seems like a lot, I know. But surprisingly, having lots of sex makes you want it more. Plus, the skills of both parties improve. Practice makes perfect! You just have to make the time for it!

Q: How do we overcome disagreements?

A: TALK ABOUT IT. Say how you feel in a positive way. Beating a dead horse now, I know. Haha!

  • Here’s an example: I feel sad when we disagree over ______ because it’s important to me that we are on the same page. I would like it if we could brainstorm how to overcome this disagreement or come to a compromise.

Q: How do we decide when to start or stop having children?

A: Again this is such a personal decision between you and your spouse/SO. Make sure you voice your feelings using an I statement. If your partner isn’t ready, then it’s out of your control! The more you talk about it in a positive way without blame, the more likely they are to open up and come around to the idea. A lot of deeper fears are involved when it comes to the decision of how many children you want to bring into the world. Be patient with them, and keep the conversation open so they can come to you when they’re ready!

  • Example: I feel frustrated when you tell me you’re not ready to have kids because I want nothing more than to start a family with you. I would like it if you could think about it, let me know any concerns you may have and tell me when you’re ready.


That’s a wrap my friends! I hope you found this helpful and gained some insight as to how to handle the inevitable bumps on the road of your relationships. If you have any other questions you’d like answered, leave them in the comments and my husband and I will do our best to address them! Lots of love from us to all of you!

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How to Create a Capsule Wardrobe | Fall 2018
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The weather is slowly transitioning to fall and it's my favorite time of the year for fashion! Transitioning your summer wardrobe into fall fabulous is easy with just a few key pieces! I've got the deets on how to make what's in your closet work for you, so keep reading! For reference I'll be listing an outline of my capsule wardrobe to help you get an idea of how to create your own! Most of the items I have, but some are similar items because what I purchased two seasons ago is no longer available but still going strong!! *hands to face, shocked white eyes emoji* That's just the beauty of simplifying your wardrobe, ladies. And it doesn't have to cost a fortune either! All images will be linked so you know where to find each item! All items are under $50! Ready??? Let's start with covering your butt. ;) 


BOTTOMS

First, you'll want to hang onto your favorite denim shorts and ankle cropped jeans. Seriously!!! They are the perfect bottoms for fall! You can pair shorts with a tee and long cardigan/kimono, or put a sweater on top to balance it out! The key is to get creative with how you layer your tops with your bottoms. Keep scrolling to see what I mean!

  • 2 pairs of bermuda shorts

  • 2 pairs of denim crops

  • 1 pair of distressed black skinny jeans


TOPS:

Below are some examples of tops to keep in your fall capsule wardrobe. Take notice, they are ALL short sleeve. This will make it so you don't get too hot during the day, but you can use your layering piece of choice to help warm you/change things up when things cool down a little. Pick some tops that are more lightweight and basic, and some that are a little more warm and patterned. Find fall colored stripes or a classic plaid top to give all those fall vibes!

  • 1 graphic tee

  • 1 button up blouse

  • 2 basic tees in neutral colors (I count the black/white mock neck top as a basic neutral)

  • 2 fall toned/patterned tops


SWEATERS:

These are the layering pieces I was referring to earlier. Using these will add interest and warmth to your basics! Add this kimono over a pair of shorts, graphic tee and booties for a boho vibe. Throw the midi cardigan over a mock neck top and high waisted distressed jean with a pair of mules for a modern edgy look. You can layer a neutral sweater over a collared button up with some cropped cuffed jeans and white tennis shoes for a preppy look! I'm telling you, the possibilities are endless for mixing and matching with these simple layering pieces!

  • 1 crochet/lace kimono

  • 1 neutral crew sweater

  • 1 long sweater cardigan


DRESSES + JUMPSUITS

These pieces are so much fun to dress up or down. That's something that's so great about having simple base pieces. You can always layer them and style them in so many different ways! Pair the jumpsuit with a graphic tee and some tennis shoes or put it with a collared top, statement earrings and some mules for a more dressy look. Go sporty with your dresses by pairing them with a sweater and tennis shoes or throw on your kimono and booties. You can't go wrong, I'm telling you.

  • 1 jumpsuit

  • 2 simple dresses


SHOES + ACCESSORIES

I mean, did I say enough about mixing and matching basics yet? Haha these are definitely my most worn shoes styles in my closet right now. Although, I have faux leather strap slides that I've been wearing, not mules. Mules are definitely on my list to purchase for fall and these ones are so cute/affordable! Grab a few trendy accessories like these bandana scarfs and some tassel earrings to take any look to the next level! I also have a couple baseball caps and chokers that I like to switch it up with as well. Accessories and layers are where all the fun is for fall! 

  • 1 pair black booties

  • 1 pair faux leather mules/slides

  • 1 pair white tennis shoes

  • 2 bandanas for around neck/hair

  • 1+ pairs of fun fall toned earrings

  • 2 baseball caps

  • 1 choker necklace

There you go! 25 pieces total and I'm ready for fall!! Once you have the basic essential pieces for your style, you'll find yourself being more satisfied with your closet from season to season. Then all you need to add are a few layering or accessory pieces to freshen up your look! Which is overall way cheaper in the long run! Do you think you could survive the season with only 25 pieces?

Simplifying my wardrobe is one of the best things I've ever done for myself! I feel like I have way more pieces I LOVE and less pieces that I just bought because they were on sale and wanted more clothes but never wear because they don't go with anything. Ha! I have become so much more intentional about each piece and only buy something if I love it, feel comfortable in it and know I'll wear it multiple times. It's been so good for my confidence and my budget!

If you have any questions about creating your own capsule wardrobe, I'm happy to answer them! Just leave them in the comments below or send me a DM on instagram @adashofsalter!

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Things I Have Learned Through My Miscarriage
 
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  1. How long the bleeding can last

    I miscarried Mother's day weekend and the bleeding continued for six and a half more weeks. According to my multiple google searches, 2 weeks is "normal" but it may last longer than that. For me it did, and I didn't know if it was ever going to stop. After a month I stopped going into the doctor's office (more on that below), but I felt like my body was healing in it's own time. If I had been cramping or in any pain I definitely would have talked to a healthcare professional. Luckily, the bleeding stopped and I was finally able to not be constantly reminded of what I had lost.
     

  2. What it feels like to get weekly blood tests

    This is the reason I stopped seeing my doctor. I had my blood drawn at my first appointment where my doctor told me while looking at my ultrasound, "I don't see anything in there." I had it drawn again a couple days later and my hCG levels weren't dropping very quickly. So my doctor asked that I come in again the next week for a shot to resolve any possible ectopic pregnancy and allow them to take another blood draw. This continued for three weeks. With massive bruises on each arm and anxiety over going in again, I made the best decision for my mental and emotional health to stop getting my blood drawn. So glad I made that decision. Again, if I had been in pain at all I would have continued to seek professional help. It should also be noted that I just stopped receiving all the lab bills for those blood draws. 
     
  3. My grief doesn't look like someone else's, and that's okay

    I consider myself a pretty optimistic person, and so my brain often doesn't want to open up about hurt, pain, sorrow, loss. I never want to bum people out. But it doesn't mean I don't feel all of those things. Sharing a little bit about how I've felt and what I've learned from my experience is how I'm able to move forward in a positive way. Sometimes I feel like that might make me seem fake or less authentic, but everyone grieves differently. Having an optimistic perspective that my experience can help someone else is how I'm coping with my loss, and that's true to who I am right now. And however you grieve, that's okay too!!
     
  4. Talking about it brings out emotions and allows you to stay on top of them

    I felt burdened by what I was going through and opening up to my mom and sisters almost a month later was so healing for me. Sharing my experience here on the blog was hard for me, but also allowed me to understand just how many women go through something like what I experienced. It's given me so much understanding of how important it is to not judge others. You never know what they may be going through or what struggles they've faced in the past. I almost didn't share anything at all because I didn't want people to feel like they had to cheer me up or that I was seeking attention from my situation. But I'm glad I followed my heart felt feelings to post anyway because it's brought me closer to my family, friends, and complete strangers.  It's also brought me closer to my Savior, Jesus Christ, and I'm so grateful for that.
     
  5. The grief and worry don't stop after the bleeding does

    Luckily my reproductive cycle seems to be normalizing itself four months later, but the grief and worry still occur from time to time. When I see pregnant bellies, pregnancy announcements that have the same due date month our baby would have, gender reveals, regretting flying to California while pregnant, imagining what I'd look like right now if I hadn't miscarried, anytime I think I might be pregnant again but the test is negative, not working out as hard because I think I might be pregnant, wondering what's wrong with my body, etc; You get the idea. I still think about it all the time. I don't know if I'll ever forget about it, because it's the first time I've ever had a personal experience shake me so hard. 
     
  6. I am not alone

    I was OVERWHELMED TO TEARS because of all of the women who had experienced something similar and reached out to me with love and understanding. It somehow broke my heart and mended it simultaneously to know so many had been where I was. Not to mention the countless empathetic, loving messages from friends, family, and strangers who were grieving with me even though they didn't know what I was feeling. THANK YOU. Every comment, thought and prayer meant so much to me and I felt so loved by all of you. I also know that my loving Heavenly Father and Savior, Jesus Christ, had their arms wrapped around me through this trial. The spirit has comforted me and reaffirmed to me that I will have the opportunity to see my angel baby again someday. 
     

  7. An increased love and compassion for others

    I think that sometimes heartbreak happens so more love can fit inside it before it's patched back up again. My heart has been opened and my mind is more aware of everyone who might be secretly suffering. If you're going through a miscarriage right now, I'm so sorry. No matter how common it is or how far along you were, the loss is still a loss. The pain is both physical, and emotional. The hormone levels dropping inside you still affect your mental health. See a health professional, and also listen to what you think your body needs to recover. Nothing you did caused this to happen, but from what I've experienced that doesn't stop the regret or paranoia. So just give yourself grace and time. Allow yourself to feel sad, mad, worried or guilty. Reach out to others often, when you feel like you need support. You will be surprised how many others have been through a similar struggle in silence. Please realize that you are not broken. You are strong. You are perfectly you. And you are loved. 

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Out With the Old + in With the New

Okay, I have always wanted to do a comparison of my old makeup routine to my new one and I finally gave it a shot! The results were even better than I had expected and I found myself falling in love with Maskcara all over again! I mean, just check out this before and after...

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Now, the difference isn't super drastic because I was highlighting and contouring already with my old routine, BUT it took a lot of different products and lots of powders. 

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In the photo on the right are the products I use every single day. It's all in one compact so I don't need to dig through my makeup bag anymore. Not to mention it's so pretty to look at!!! *all the heart eyes emoji* My brushes are high quality, I don't lose any bristles on my face while applying. They're all double sided and double functional. Everything in this photo is a professional, high quality product that has been thoughtfully designed by an experienced makeup artist. It hydrates my skin, doesn't make me break out, blends effortlessly and looks natural on my skin! Plus, my setting spray has 30 SPF which was a step my previous routine was missing. My husband couldn't believe the difference when I made the switch! I have a natural, dewy glow at all times, and I wouldn't want it any other way! This definitely affirmed my love for these products and I don't ever plan on going back to my old routine!!

The picture to the left is all the products I used to use before I started using Maskcara, along with a collection of super cheap makeup brushes I had already thrown in the trash. Haha! Here's the thing. These products are all drugstore, cheap products. For the most part they were working for me, but I didn't realize how terrible these foundations and powders were for my dry skin. The  foundation was too orange for my skin and the products were near impossible to blend once they were applied to my face. It made my skin look dull instead of bright and awake. My face immediately felt tight after I finished applying everything. These products were the cheapest things on the market, and the way it wore throughout the day made that obvious. I just wish I would have switched over completely years and years ago.

 

 

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I mean, just look at the side by side!! This makeup was a total game changer in my mom routine.

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Must Do, See and Eat in San Francisco || Travel Guide
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Matthew surprised me with a trip to San Francisco for our wedding anniversary and we loved every second of it! I wanted to create a list of things we enjoyed doing, seeing and - most importantly - eating!! It's such a diverse city and rich with culture so be sure to add it to your bucket list!! All locations mentioned will be linked to google maps. You're welcome. ;)

Before we jump into it here's a few tips! We stayed in a darling AirBNB in Oakland, but if we could change one thing about our trip it'd be to stay in the city so we didn't have to cross the bridge every day. It took a lot of time from our day and we just didn't feel as safe as we would have liked to. There were some amazing restaurants we got to try in Oakland though, so not too mad about it! We didn't rent a car and just took an Uber or Lyft if we were tired of walking, which I would recommend because parking is crazy! Plus, they have those cameras that take pictures of the plates and mail you traffic violation tickets. No thanks! They have great scooters you can rent for $1 with an app on your phone to ride around the city and we had so much FUN doing that! Make sure to check the weather before packing to make sure your prepared! It turned out to be a LOT colder than we expected and I was so glad I brought my heavy coat with me! Okay, now that we've covered some of the basics, let's jump into the fun stuff!! 

 

MUST DO + See:


Fisherman's Wharf:

We loved walking around Fisherman's Wharf! There's street performers everywhere that are entertaining and a fun way to pass free time. They also have a vintage arcade called, Musée Mécanique that is CRAZY! There's lots of seafood and amazing restaurants to try as well!! This was Matthew's favorite spot of the trip. Watching the street performers do their thing. 

Ghirardelli Square:

Just down a ways from the wharf is Ghirardelli Square. You HAVE to go check it out and try some of Ghirardelli's famous ice cream creations and sample their yummy chocolate! I had the BEST rocky road ice cream in a waffle cone! I never got any pictures of the things we ate because I was too excited to eat them to think to take a picture. Hahaha! Story of my life. There are other fancy restaurants and shops, too! We saw a few street vendors at the park there and you can board the cable car to take you downtown!

Golden Gate Bridge:

Have you really been to SF if you didn't see and walk across the Golden Gate Bridge? I mean, come on!! It's even more majestic in person! I couldn't believe how massive the bridge really is!! I have a fear of heights and bridges can sometimes give me anxiety because of that, but I felt very safe the entire time! Watching the maintenance workers walking on the outside of the bridge? Not good for my anxiety. Haha! 

Baker Beach:

Another great view of the Golden Gate Bridge is from Baker Beach. WARNING: You are very likely to see nude men laying, roaming, and splashing around on this beach. Go early in the morning to avoid them if you can! Because it really is a beautiful beach and view of the bridge!

Pier 39:

This is probably the most touristy part of SF, but it's adorable none the less! Total beach carnival feels. The funnest shops, eateries, attractions and most delicious fresh fruit stand where Matthew purchased the best mango of his life. It was nearly the size of his head!!! No joke. There are also seals that come chill on the docks. They stink and they're loud, but it's still quite the spectical! Ha!

Original Cable Car:

One more time: Have you really been to SF if you didn't ride the Cable Car? We almost skipped this one and I'm SO GLAD we didn't! It's the LAST cable car of it's kind still running, in the entire world! The cables that move the cars actually run underneath the streets. It's nuts!! You can hop on it in multiple locations, but we decided to ride it from Market + Powell to Pier 39 where we had our anniversary dinner date that night!

Chinatown:

Okay. We totally felt like we stepped into China when we got here. Try to enter through the Dragon Gate and get a picture in front of it! There are tons of shops and places to eat here. We bought some Chinese fruit cake that was...interesting. Haha!! But I love trying new things and experiencing cultures this way! Especially through their unique foods!They only accept cash there, so make sure you bring some if you want to buy trinkets and yummy food! I'll share the restaurant we tried and loved further down on this post! 

Alcatraz Island Tour:

This was HANDS DOWN my favorite part of the trip. We took a cruise ship over to the island, and as soon as we set foot on it I was completely blown away with it's beauty! The natural aging of the buildings told a story and the landscape was absolutely breathtaking!! I seriously took hundreds of photos. This isn't even all of them. We did the audio tour of the actual prison, and it was crazy to think about all of the prisoners who once lived there. I don't want to spoil any of the tour, but I'm telling you, you have to check it out!!

Mission District:

This area felt like we walked into little Mexico! Matthew and I love some good authentic Mexican food and it was everywhere! Our favorite that we tried is listed below. There's Mission Delores Park that has a stunning view of the city and a fun playground for kiddos. We also stopped to see the oldest church in SF that was built in the late 1700's, but later found out we took a picture by the big newer one next door and missed the old one completely. Haha!! If I learned one thing over and over again on this trip, it's that I have no sense of direction in unfamiliar places. 

Painted Ladies:

Am I the only one who thought Full House was filmed in one the painted ladies??? I was a little bummed to find out that wasn't the case and that it was over a mile away. Still, these houses are beautiful and we took a nap on the grass of the park across the street. Walking the streets of SF is tiring man! The architecture and character of the homes there was amazing. You really have to walk the streets to really take it all in!

 

MUST EAT:


La Taqueria:

Again, no photos of the food because I was starving at every stop! Haha! The burritos at this place literally made me cry tears of joy. I hadn't eaten in 6 hours and this food gave me LIFE. We didn't speak to each other until our food was gone. I wish we had the time to go back and have some tacos, but it didn't end up happening. DEFINITELY try it!

Nopa:

The BEST food we ate while on our trip. Our neighborhood friends ended up being there at the same time (go check out Tauri's blog post for her trip experience) and they suggested we meet up for dinner here. BOY am I glad that they did!! Fancy, tasty food in a super fun atmosphere. I savored every. single. bite. Seriously, still dreaming about it.

Tony's Pizza:

We stopped in little Italy for some legit Italian pizza. I love a good authentic margarita pizza and this one met all of my expectations! They offer some cool speciality drinks at the bar there as well. We tried a non-alcoholic mango flavored ginger beer and it was SHARP. Pretty sure I asked Matthew multiple times if there was alcohol in it because the ginger was so strong! Hahaha! 

Fog Harbor Fish House:

This is where Matthew and I had dinner to celebrate our anniversary. Matthew had a filet mignon with crab on top and I had their famous clam chowder in a bread bowl. It was all to die for!! Then we had a free dessert to share. Heavenly! The view of the bay and the company were the best part though. Best 7 years, growing older and experiencing life with this guy!!!! 

Ghirardelli Ice Cream Shop:

The day we went to the square to get some ice cream it was cold, and the line was LOOOOONG, but it was well worth the wait!! It did not let us down. If you're lucky, you can watch them make the waffle cones while you wait for your order and they'll even let you try one. I think I owe that to Matthew's charm. It's definitely one of the many perks of being married to him. 

Aunt Mary's Cafe:

Okay, so this isn't in SF. It's a darling brunch place in Oakland, and it was BY FAR the best breakfast we had while on our trip. Probably even made the top 5 overall. Seriously yummy, and original breakfast food. They also had pies that looked incredible, but I was so full from our meal we didn't get a chance to try some!

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Bi-Rite Creamery: 

Ice cream, again. What can we say? We like to indulge ourselves while on vacation. Somehow the wait was extremely long here as well on an even COLDER day! It really convinced us that it was as good as people say it is. I loved the location near Mission District with this cutest little ice cream cone outside the shop! 

Hawking Bird: 

This is another Oakland eatery. Our host highly recommended trying this place out because a friend of hers who is a Michelin star chef opened it! She suggested trying the chicken fat rice, and once again it did not disappoint. That was another night I was starving and it REALLY hit the spot!

House of Nanking:

This was the super delish Chinese restaurant we picked to eat at in Chinatown! It's the tiniest little place, but has lots of charm! The staff was super accommodating and the food was awesome! I just wish we ordered more eggrolls. 


And that's a wrap! Those are some of the highlights from our trip and we 10/10 recommend them! If you end up going to SF and visiting the spots in our guide we'd love to hear what you thought! Have you been to SF and love something we missed on the list? Add it to the comments so future readers can see your recommendations, too! 

Shout out to Kristin Welker for all of the amazing recommendations she sent to us out of the goodness of her own heart! Love you, girl! 

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