I know I talk about this a lot, but I wanted to let you know more in depth some of the things I've learned since becoming an Independent Maskcara Artist. You already know how much I have LOVED this change, so I have narrowed it down to five main lessons I have learned and I'm going to expound on those. I am so excited to share them with you!!! Let's get on with it, shall we?!
If you're not moving forward, you're drifting away
For the last 4 years, before joining Maskcara, I was a stay at home mom. It was a huge priority for us to have me here to care for our children. When I finished my associates degree, Turner was 4 months old. I was done with college and knew I wanted to spend my time exclusively raising him. What I didn't realize at the time was how much of an impact it would have on my personal development.
Being a mother has helped me grow in SO MANY WAYS. But, at the same time, the isolation and lack of continued personal education has stunted my personal growth. I stopped doing things that challenged me. I lost sight of my passions, goals and dreams. I was doing the daily routine, but I wasn't doing much to improve myself. After having our second child, it really started to wear on my soul and I knew that I needed to make a change to maintain a personal identity. It's almost like I could feel my personality slipping away! Dramatic much? Haha maybe...
Then something happened. Matthew became self employed as a Real Estate Agent in February. As we worked together to expand our thinking I felt a small fire ignite inside of me. We started reading inspiring business books and talking about our aspirations! We talked about all of the sacrifices we can make to get us where we want to be. I started feeling the passions within me bubbling to the surface. That's when I was on Instagram one day and saw someone I followed was a Maskcara artist. I found out she lived down the street from me and then I couldn't stop thinking about it. I brought it up to Matthew, he encouraged me and I joined a couple weeks later when enrollments opened up again!
Ever since that day I have felt myself learning and growing as an individual, striving to reach personal goals and obtain new skills!! It's made me realize how important it is to keep moving forward. Because if you're not, one day you will find you've drifted away.
No one is the exception to hard work
I went into this knowing I would have to work harder than I ever have before. I've never been good at keeping a consistent schedule. I am VERY EASILY distracted. Even starting the blog, an Etsy shop and other small side gigs had fizzled away over time. My motivations were never strong enough to drive me. Oh, that's another thing! I am a very content and comfortable person, so my natural drive is on the low side as well. I tend to procrastinate until the last minute and the stress/anxiety of that habit can cause debilitating effects. Basically, after 4 years of just earning a little money here and there for "fun" I knew this was going to be a big change in lifestyle.
I had so many doubts in myself, but deep down I knew that this was a company I could stand behind forever. I knew I would try my very best to succeed. At the very beginning I would watch other artists who had been running their business since January and get overwhelmed immediately. I thought, wow...they are such a success! How could I ever get there? When they have such a huge team or a huge following, how could I ever succeed? I watched them to learn from them, but instead I started to compare myself to them.
That's when my husband had me tell him how the Top Leader of the company and I were different. I started to say things like, she has a community of woman that she can influence, she is older than I am and has more experience. He stopped me and said, "You're wrong." I was stunned! He continued, "The only difference between you and her, is your skills. She has gained skills that have helped her get where she is now. You can gain those exact same skills and be exactly where she is right now. Nothing can stop you from doing exactly what she has done."
That was the biggest truth bomb to me in that moment. She had done all of the hard work with her business before Maskcara. She had worked her buns off to gain the skills to improve her life. That's what makes her a top leader. NO ONE is the exception to that hard work. Maybe some of us have to work harder than others because of life circumstances, but we can ALL get where we want to be if we work hard enough!
Consistency REALLY IS the key
This one right here. This lesson has kicked my trash time and time again. My old habits and, dare I say, laziness have been hard to break. For YEARS I let my schedule control me instead of the other way around. That's why consistency has been SO HARD. In August I attended the Maskcara Launch Party in Vegas and it was after that I set a goal to be extremely consistent in my schedule.
Now, if you have any children at all, you KNOW that can be near impossible. But I tried not to let that stop me from being as consistent as possible. I had good days and bad days, but overall I noticed how well that consistency paid off. At the end of August I had my best month yet! The problem with that was I got complacent with that success and I stopped being as consistent. Boy, did that hurt me. It can be a vicious cycle if you let it. Right now I'm in a complacent phase because I've had a really good month, but I'm still not where I want to be.
The best way to push through complacency is to think big. To dream your biggest dreams. Go test drive your dream car, look at some million dollar homes, or plan a dream vacation for your family!! Then get back on that consistent schedule and KILL IT!!